Take some time for yourself! Join us for our first supper club in the glamourous surroundings of The Gate Restaurant, Richmond Harbour Hotel. for an evening of delicious food, brilliant company and wonderful conversation. You will enjoy a welcome cocktail or G&T from Marussa’s Porters Tropical Gin and a delicious three course meal, followed by conversation with Steph Douglas and Deborah James about how they make time to unwind, whilst balancing family, work and everything else.
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Liza at @superself.1, a year 3 @nuafashioncomms student, has written her dissertation on the six dimensions of wellness, she knows her stuff. She has created a bespoke, glorious event for 17 lucky mums on Sat 6th April at @erpinghamhouse filled with:
yoga and meditation with Atma Gyanam from @theyogatreenorwich
an interview with @carlyrowena (I’m interviewing Carly about how we can build fitness into our lives, motivation, confidence and there’s time for q&a. It’s basically like having Carly in your lounge)
a tasty vegan lunch at @erpinghamhouse
essential oils and their emotional benefits workshop with Holistic Nutritionist and Life Coach @kristiebecker
mini massages with 3 therapists from @jackiehamiltonschoolnorwichAND Jackie herself and tea tasting
The ticket cost is £49.84 inc booking fees, ALSO including an exclusive, amazing goody bag (Carly may have had a hand in it ) and a bespoke wellness manual
Any profit will be donated to @mindnorwich
Liza will be revealing more details over on her account @superself.1 as the weeks go by. She researched a lot of London events before designing this one - it will be welcoming, encouraging and you’ll leave with actionable ways to feel better in your day to day life.🌱💥🧘🏼♀️
DETAILED EVENT NOTES ARE HERE
This was the 16th We Got This (Sometimes!) Norwich event (there are clearly a lot of topics to cover when you have kids and are trying to navigate life, right?!)
Annie has written a book about how to become freelance when you have kids. Steph left her job and set up a business because she knew her job wouldn’t work round kids. Seventy women came to hear them both share their experience with fizz in a beautiful setting at Bill’s in Norwich. The audience were at various stages - looking for the next step, already freelance but wondering if they made the right choice, maybe didn’t have a choice so are trying to be more effective. The general feeling was “we want to be with our kids, we want and need to earn money - how on earth do we balance it all?”
Before we start looking at the advice, a quick side note: we had a couple of women in the audience who are not mums, and they found the event just as useful - if you’re reading this, and you’re freelance, you’ll get some positive action from Annies’s book. Whether it’s reassurance, inspiration, knowledge - I’ve been freelance for over ten years and things have changed a lot. Put some new tools in your toolkit. Annie’s book is just £7 from Jarrolds.
The feedback from this event has been pretty immense to be honest. I know there is a gap for women like us, which is why I started We Got This (Sometimes) but even so - the environment we’re in, and trying to navigate is tricky and Annie and Steph are pretty awesome at agreeing to share their experience. Some of the feedback:
“So here goes! I have officially handed in my notice and I am leaping fearlessly into the world of freelance (well, maybe a bit of fear but going to go for it regardless). I'm freee... except that I'm very much not. Two wonderful but high maintenance little ladies will be quite literally hanging on for the ride. Thank you Emma @wegotthissometimes for the brilliant 'Making Work Work' event on Wednesday. Very wise words from @annieridout and @steph_dontbuyherflowers, not to mention the brilliant women in business (or soon to be) I had the privilege of meeting beforehand. I've been totally inspired this week and I'm ready as I'll ever be. Now time to prepare to welcome some babies! 🎉👶🎉” SarahWelcomeBaby
“Happy Friday everyone!
This week I feel like a cloud has lifted after a number of months feeling quite flat (career-wise), I suddenly have hope and a bit of clarity for the future! I took voluntary redundancy from my job in HR and assumed I’d look for another similar role but with three kids it’s not easy to find a flexible senior position (@mother_pukka ’s #flexappeal campaign couldn’t have come sooner). I know I’d never dared leave without a plan so a restructure and a pretty toxic environment was the push I needed. I attended @wegotthissometimes event with @annieridout and @steph_dontbuyherflowers @dontbuyherflowers this week and something just clicked!
Fast forward to today, I got home to an empty house (which never happens) so settled down with this book and noticed Annie wrote “well done for making the leap”, it just reaffirms everything and makes it feel more real! I’ve gone from worrying to being excited about the future, yay!!” @home_we_call_westie
“Thanks so much @wegotthissometimes for a great event! And huge thanks to @steph_dontbuyherflowers for the inspiring mentoring. I feel fired up and ready to go” @hello_lovely_party
“Such a great feeling to be surrounded by like minded individuals who all have the same daily struggles of raising children and trying to stay sane!” @wired_mama
“These events keep me going. Being in a room full of other women nodding their heads along to what Annie and Steph said make me feel part of something. They were both so honest and thats what makes us all come together!” @little.dottie.designs
“Great event last night thank you. First one I’ve come to and was really impressed with the content and how it was run.” @bigmindcoaching
“It was a really good evening and has given me a big boost. Thank you!” @greenandrowe
“Thank you so much for another brilliant event. I had such a good time. “ @cherished_heart_jewellery
“Little message to say thanks for a great night at Bill's Norwich last week. I've felt really rejuvenated since!” @melissamorgandesigns
Many thanks to co-sponsors Minivino Wines who bought their recyclable, resealable wines for everyone to try, and to Liz their Marketing Director who helped women in the speed mentoring sessions. Huge thanks also to Ginger Fashion on Timber Hill, who showcased their big Scamp and Dude range and gorgeous Norfolk cushions. Please follow them, and buy their things - the event couldn’t happen without them! Little Freddie supplied gorgeous gift sets of organic food for mums to try with their weaning babies, which went down very well.
Have a look at @wired_mama - she made this wire art for We Got This which I love!
What did I find most useful?
As a freelancer and a small business owner, I feel the pain and benefits of both. What I found most useful:
Try to break the cycle of the guilt I feel when I am working about the kids and then about the work, when I am with the kids
Remember to be kind to your partner above all else
Concentrate on stories, less on sales (like the “why” that Simon Sinek promotes)
Encourage Mike to and all my friends husbands to listen to the Dear Sugars podcast as recommended by Steph (link is in the event notes)
Know what to delegate and when - you can only grow if you delegate.
I mentioned a We Got This (Sometimes) business club, which seemed to have a lot of support - that’s what I’ll be working on next. I’ll be in touch - if you’d like to know more, there is a mailing list on this link called #PowerHour Business Events - that’s where I will send details, or please email me here.
DETAILED EVENT NOTES ARE HERE
There were surveys on your chairs for Liza, a student who is planning a Wellness event for mums - a digital version is here if you missed it, please feel free to complete if you didn’t attend, the survey is here.
All photos by Emily Gray Photography
I had a few women contact me who are considering their next moves post relocation to Norfolk or post maternity leave. I don’t feel 100% confident to advise as I’m in it right now, and some might say I have good days and bad days (!).
For the past couple of months I’ve been learning to integrate new clients into our lives, with less childcare than normal. It’s been “interesting” (meltdowns, late nights) yet now we’re in a sweet spot as it feels, fingers crossed, that as long as I “keep going” and as long as the system isn’t rocked by illness etc we can muddle along. These are some resources below that might help.
I see three options for working: freelance, business owner and being employed. As a career minded mum of two small children, I’ve found it impossible to find employed work at the level (and corresponding salary) I’d be happy with. I think it’s due to a lack of advertised senior Job Shares in this area. I am trying to talk to people about that.
I already own a business, which is my third baby, this one, We Got This (Sometimes!) which is a passion project. If I hadn’t started this business, I wouldn’t have the skills that have led me to my current freelance clients, which is lucky, as I love doing it.
I’ve been a freelancer for ten years, I act as a marketing manager for clients and sometimes as an agency account director. It’s incredibly rewarding having control over my time (although, at the end of day, if there’s a meeting, I need to go.) It’s interesting, and varied and actually taps into my skills really well. What is difficult is shoe-horning it in to childcare slots, as life doesn’t work like that. And all the other non chargeable things that are not paying the nursery bills, like finding clients, pitching to clients, chasing invoices, etc. Also the ‘personal branding’ element, which is new vs ten years ago. Am I meant to have an instagram for my work? How can I fit that in!
I also struggle with sharing the “load” aspect. My husband works more than full time, and is often away. He has stepped up and now does the food shop and meal plan which I LOVE, and does the washing if it needs doing, however he doesn’t see the blocks of our kids lives that are constantly shifting like I do. The party invites, the swimming lessons, the childcare juggling, the bill paying, the family visiting, homework, school admin. And I’m not really saying he should as he’s flipping busy BUT because I freelance, I am the flexible one who does the running around. One way we’ve recently found is if I work from 6 til 1 or 2pm on a Saturday, I feel better. Rock and roll.
Resources I have come across:
Returning to work after maternity:
1 - Guilty Mothers Club - Rock your Return online courses
Setting up a business:
2 - Selfish Mother - online courses
Finding out what you want to do:
3 - All Bright Academy - I’ve just been accepted into an online course
4 - Step Up Club
How to do it:
6. AND NOW also The Freelance Mum by Annie Ridout (totally spotted that a few months back!)
8 - Sam James Coach - she’s a mum, she’s a coach and she’s ace.
The February event to me shines a spotlight on why I set this business up (admittedly Steph has been a huge influence on me!) in that I want to find my groove and ultimately not be stressed, be a good mum and a nice person. Hopefully it will do the same for you!
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Every so often, on a Wednesday, we ask a mum how they manage their work and family. This week, Annie Ridout gives us her approach to feeling like she’s ‘got this’. (Sometimes.)