When we busted The Supermum Myth with Anya Hayes

I SPOTTED THE SUPERMUM MYTH BOOK by Anya Hayes on instagram one night and thought that is EXACTLY what a mums event needs to be about - a toolkit to help with all the emotions, anxiety and worries we might have as mums at various points. Those thoughts that you might not share (but you should) are all in this book, and more than that, the tools really help break down issues so you can move forward.

Combined with complimentary pampering from a pop up braid and beauty bar from Hairsmiths and Kirstie Barton, hand massages from Cherry Beauty Therapy, pre and post natal advice from The Powder Room Physioand About Birth and Babies (part of the Pregnancy and Parenthood Team at Rowan House) mums could have their photo taken with Mother Pukka’s photographer Charlotte from Emily Gray Photography

Anya was engaging, articulate, inspiring and so knowledgable - her experience as a writer specialising in pregnancy, motherhood and mindfulness was profound and genuinely empowering: Anya's post on Birth StoriesAnya on destructive emotions and finding your mojo

Top tips:

😐In relation to our partners who we may sometimes find “difficult", the ratio is 5 to 1. If you talk about 5 positive things to 1 negative, your relationship will keep moving in the right direction (big tip for a moany old goat like me!) 

📱Be strict about your phone use, have a routine where you leave it in another room so you’re not tempted to “just check” and think about how you feel if you’re hanging out with someone and they won’t put their phone down, that may be how your kids see you! This is a helper in freeing up your mind and helping find some flow in other activities too (Mike cracked up at me reading this out 😬)

🔥”Helpful” tips or comments from other people that might ignite the panic googling (should he be walking / why isn’t he talking etc) that is their issue not yours, shake off the comment like a duck shaking off water and mentally move away ......

💁🏽Catch yourself when you are talking to yourself in a horrible way “that happened because I didn’t do this” or “I’m such a crap mum, I should have seen that coming” etc- if you jot down your internal chatter you may be shocked how you talk to yourself, catch it and change it to how your kind friend might talk to you, police your thoughts

💃🏽Mojo - it can take a while to find your mojo, who you are now, post natally you may have “post natal depletion” which we hadn’t heard of, and this can leave you feeling tired, meh, not quite right for years after the birth - Anya’s book helps you understand if that’s actually ok right now and ways to help you find your identity again

Anything that helps make #mumlife easier has to be a good thing, right?!